Paedophiles are not the only threat to children with no real concept of the dangers of the net, writes Carol Hunt
It’s ironic that in an age where parents are so sensitive to the dangers of allowing children socialise without supervision that the biggest threat to their safety could possibly be within their own home.
This week a report by the UK’s communications watchdog, Ofcom, showed that children as young as eight are at risk from paedophiles and bullies because of their use of the internet.
Of the 3,000 children surveyed, who had internet access, half of eight-to-11-year-olds have a profile on a social network — Bebo being the preferred site for nearly two-thirds of this age group. Many of the kids admit that they lie about their age when networking and nearly half say that their parents have laid down absolutely no rules or guidelines concerning their use of the internet.
This is an abrogation of parental responsibility on a reckless scale. Many parents wouldn’t dream of allowing their eight-year-old to play alone in the park for hours after school, but have no qualms about leaving little Chloe alone in her bedroom chatting to God knows who on a social network site.
Don’t parents realise that their child is probably more likely to link up with a paedophile masquerading as a fellow friend online than in the local park after school?
Okay, most parents of my age are still more than a little confused when it comes to the intricacies of social networking. We are not part of the millennial generation.
(Millennials, for all you old fogeys out there, are people [usually young] who are totally au fait with all aspects of internet communication).
But whether we like it or not, parents now have a responsibility to catch up with modern technology as quickly as possible — our children’s safety may depend on it.
And I admit that this may not be such an easy task, especially if — like me — you are a bit of a Luddite when it comes to technology.
I still get confused when I try to send group emails and I have never willingly accessed a social networking site.
I have an old-fashioned fear of posting anything on the internet — emails, photos, videos that I wouldn’t be happy seeing plastered over the front of a newspaper. Which is why I still find it quite unbelievable when I see what kids put up about themselves on the internet — most of them with not a thought for who will read it or what use their photos and personal details can be put to.
Most parents I know just can’t seem to get their heads around the casual manner in which kids will post sexually provocative material about themselves online.
They are genuinely shocked when they are shown Bebo or MySpace sites of precocious young girls who post porn-style pictures of themselves on their pages — complete with phone numbers and addresses — but still seem to remain ignorant of the fact that their own child may be posting inappropriate material about themselves online.
The Ofcom report states baldly that children and teenagers feel ‘invincible’ when on the web and it’s understandable that they fail to see the danger of posting sensitive information when cocooned in the privacy of their own homes.
Even Microsoft chairman Bill Gates has been caught out several times discussing schemes against a corporate enemy in emails which were admitted as evidence in anti-trust testimony.
And if he doesn’t know better, how can we expect teenagers to be aware of the dangers of posting information on the web that they would be far better off keeping to themselves? A few months ago I talked to a number of young, intelligent teenagers about their use of the internet and was amazed when most of them said they spent a minimum of two to three hours a day on it.
Many young people now spend far longer on the net than they do watching TV — up to 20 hours a week in some cases — and we wonder why they’re becoming obese?
In cyber-language they discuss their likes, dislikes, what they got up to at the weekend, drink/drugs, sexual preferences and a whole lot of other stuff that they would “die” if their parents found out about.
“But this stuff is out there for anyone to access, including your parents,” I said.
They dismissed my concern with a few shrugs and giggles: “My parents wouldn’t have a clue how to access my Bebo or MySpace site,” said one 15-year-old confidently. “My mother can’t even send emails, never mind find Google,” said another.
The teens are dismissive — and in some cases contemptuous — of the older generation’s inability to navigate the intricacies of social networking and other web activities.
What they don’t seem to be aware of — or care about — is that increasingly employers are using these sites to find out about current or potential employees. And it’s very easy for information and photos that you may have thought were confined to your own circle of friends to get out into the general arena.
Even if you never post a single incriminating item on the web, that’s no guarantee someone else won’t do it for you.
Earlier this year, a young teacher in Britain was suspended after an advertisement she did in her former career as an actress was posted on YouTube and spotted by her thrilled students.
Unfortunately for Sarah Green the ad was for Scruffs — clothing for construction workers — and featured three young women simulating sex with some lucky construction workers. The parents of the private school where Ms Green teaches were not amused.
“It appears her character is possibly not suited to such a highly regarded school,” one parent reportedly said.
Why do we give out so much personal information online when we cannot control its dissemination?
Not even George Orwell could have envisaged that the educated peoples of the free world would so enthusiastically hand over their lives to a pack of geeky global computer nerds: DIY surveillance — and it costs the manipulators nothing.
But whatever about the philosophical implications of a world where nothing is secret, our first priority is to teach our children how to protect themselves online: not just against possible predators, be they sexual or otherwise, but also against displaying information which may come back to haunt them in later years.
The Ofcom report states that many parents are oblivious to the issues of privacy and safety on the internet and seem to think that the sites themselves protect the users.
This isn’t good enough. If we allow our children to use the internet, we should also make sure that we know how to protect them from the risks they can incur online. As Robin Blake, head of media literacy at Ofcom, said: “This is an issue about parenting.”
Source: Irish Independent, Ireland
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