“Explosive” and “inflexible” children are terms Dave Gorrie, a psychologist and behaviour consultant with Regina Public Schools, uses to describe children who experience low frustration tolerance, inflexibility, and problem-solving difficulty.

Gorrie borrowed the terms from The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children, by Dr. Ross Greene. Gorrie recommends the book and uses it in seminars he holds on explosive and inflexible children…

“We have a moral assumption that they are just having a hissy fit, they are just trying to get attention. It may be the result of poor training, some are a mismatch between parenting styles and the temperament of the child, and the developmental delays in three areas.” …

Simply put, the adult’s agenda and the child’s agenda are brought to the table and a collaborative solution is sought…

Parents who want to learn better communication skills and be more effective in discipline and boundary-setting can consider Parenting Assets for Life, a parenting workshop at the YMCA.

The seven-week program aims to increase children’s chances at succeeding and encourages them into more active and productive lifestyles, according to facilitator Edie Paquette…

The course looks at how to set and communicate boundaries and use consequences effectively.

“Communicating exactly what you want, as in the what, who, when, where and how often,” Paquette said.

“Never tell the child you are going to do something and not do it,” she said.

“If you tell them you are going to leave the store, then you must follow through. Pose consequences that are related to the problem.

Source: Leader-Post
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